The more posts of yours I read, the more I can’t believe how similar we are Solo. I’m also 22, btw.
Same here. I really don’t understand the whole drinking culture to be honest. At school, I only ever heard people complain about it - like they were so drunk that they did really stupid stuff but couldn’t remember what happened and it also cost loads of money and I’d just think what’s the point in that?
But you feel a bit isolated when everybody else seems to be doing it. I feel that kind of ‘age’ thing but for me it’s not so much feeling old but just that I’m not a part of what young people are into these days which is an attitude commonly associated with old people.
I think because of the whole religious upbringing, I missed out on some key elements that help young people get ahead in life. I know you were educated at home so that’s more of an issue for you. A lot of the reason that people enjoy life and have the motivation to try to enjoy it is they have someone pushing them in the right direction.
Like people doing weight training have a guy to keep them going. At school and uni, I noticed nearly everyone had at least one close friend of the same sex that they would always hang out with and they pushed each other. But it should be someone with similar goals and ambitions to you, not some 16 year old who’s only worry is the exams at the end of term.
It might seem like a daft question and I can’t remember if I asked before but if I remember right, you’re not working in Germany, you say you don’t speak German and you’re depressed because you can’t make many friends because of it, so why are you living in Germany again?
Well, I have spent a bit of time here too. I wouldn’t say it takes up much of my social life now, though it did for a while. But hey, at least you have a girlfriend and a mate to talk to. Imagine your life without them and you’ve pretty much got my life except I’m in the UK.
Get closer to those people. Don’t they have other circles of friends they could introduce you to? That’s how a lot of things happen. My brother had pretty much nothing like me (I blame the parents ;)) but as soon as he found a girl, he got introduced to looooads of people. He even has an address book now. But some of those people have a wide variety of jobs and so it helped him secure some work through contacts. I might leech some to get into some sort of CG stuff.
Now he’s married to this girl with a secure job and a good set of friends in a place of his own and he’s the stupid one in the family (supposedly). I’m the one with all the brains and uni degree and IMO, I’ve got nuthin’.
Now, it seems like you are not underestimating the value of close friends and are trying to make new ones but I think you should stay to your own age group. Don’t try to find people who share interests that are geared for kids because you will likely find the people who admit they have that interest are indeed kids.
A few people have said that it’s ok to have fun and their parents do such and such but they are settled down and maybe have a comfortable lifestyle. I don’t think you have that yet. At age 22, you shouldn’t be thinking about fun - you’re starting out the toughest part of your life, fun can wait. You need to take more responsibility for where your life is heading. I’m gradually learning to do this too.
I’m not saying cut out fun altogether. Like md01 said, you need a balance. But try to think of what you want to get out of life and aim for it. I guarantee yu-gi-oh won’t help you out in a career in CG, nor will it help you in your relationships.