hey i am looking for a good (good graphics and easy to use) game engine or game making program for a begginer. I have used a few and have a small understanding but nothing to complex. what are some suggestions.
Here is a nice place to start if you have never done game design.
http://gamedev.sourceforge.net/
here is a quick tutorial, you can be a game developer in as little as an afternoon…
http://gamedev.sourceforge.net/Help/Tutorial.htm
You can use a lot of the same tricks in other games engines too…
Blender has a great game engine as well 
Moving to offtopic as it’s not actually about the BGE…
If you don’t mind paying, the best easy to use one (that is still really flexible) that I know of is torque game builder.
Try Game Maker. Just Google Game Maker.
I would say that GameStudio is a good choice for beginners to programming, regardless of their age. You can find it here: http://www.3dgamestudio.com