Crap, women are so hard to read.

I work in circuit city, and there’s this girl who keep talking to me. She some times lean on my shoulders, and we talk on closing time as well. I remember yesterday my friend, the girl and I are talking about what’s her type, and my friend(He’s a crazy guy!) asked the girl am I hot guy and she said “Oh yeah, he’s a hottie.” Then, my friend said “you see. Go get her.”
Folks, my problem is that I’ve been in a bad relationship with someone before, and I hate to have history repeat it self on me. She seems wild for me though. She has three tattos and she told me where they are. I’m lost and confused, so what the hell ask her on a date right?

If you’re crazy for her too, yeah.:slight_smile: You can’t just not ask her out because you’re afraid it may turn out badly, otherwise you’d never go out with anybody… Any particular similarities to the person you had the bad relationship with that you don’t like? Before you take my advice though, I should warn you that I’ve never really had anyone special yet. (All you guys with girlfriends and wives are pretty lucky…)

Yeah go for it. Just do it. Tell us about it afterwards. and don’t be afraid of getting hurt its good for you.


One of you will not be working there after you go out and it dont work.

Rule #1 never date people you work with.
Rule #2 Follow rule #1

Trust me, I have ALOT of experience in this matter.

what Enriq says is true.

You better get her fired for something first.

Learn these by the heart.

Murphy’s Law was named after Captain Edward A. Murphy and is formed by eight laws.

  • If anything can go wrong, it will.
  • If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the one to go wrong.
  • If anything just cannot go wrong, it will anyway.
  • If you perceive that there are four possible ways in which something can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop.
  • Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse.
  • If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.
  • Nature always sides with the hidden flaw
  • Whatever has happened wrong, is bound to happen again … maybe even worse.

Pessimists… If you have are a confident person (confident in knowing yourself), and don’t focus on failure to much, then you will find you can look at the positive of a bad situation.

Take a risk, the most successful people in the world take risks, if they fail they try again.


Don’t listen to Bigbad, he’s just the thing that’s going wrong. Go for it.

You should go for it, you don’t want to wake up one day in your fifties and realise you’ve been letting life slip past you. If you fail, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad guy, though too often our self-image depends too much on the reaction of one particular member of the opposite sex (or same, depends on one’s orientation).

Look at it this way: If you don’t go for it, you will forever regret it, even years later you will always wonder what she might have been like.
When you say she’s too wild, frankly that sounds more like a turn on (for you) than anything else. Find out exactly how wild she is.

I don’t really understand whether you are shy to ask her on a date, or are worried if it will be another bad relationship.

If you are shy to ask her out. Just do it. If she’s telling you where she had her tattoos done, and making physical contact with you, it is her that should be embarrased if she gave you the wrong idea, and not you. What are you supposed to think?

If you are worried that it will be another bad relationship, that isn’t the reason to not try. You can’t stop asking girls out because you are scared it might hurt you, that’s life… learn to get over it.

And finally, a bit of advice from an old woman: I don’t want to judge the girl, but if you are not looking to have a bad relationship… maybe you should look at dating girls who don’t tell everyone where they have their tattoos :wink:

I’ve learned that one the hard way. There is nothing quite like, re-living something you are trying to escape…ever single day you go to work.

There are just way too many women out there, to make plays for every one that winks at you. Love yourself enough to take care of your life, and you’ll find a cool girl to hit the white-water of life with.

I look back now(Because I am older than Homer’s Dad…J/K…Or am I? :eek:), and even though I gained experience from the weird and bad relationships I’ve had, I could have made better choices.

Seems like you have already been bar-b-qued once, in a bad relationship, give your heart a break.

Tell me about it. No one learned anything useful from success. Our failures are much richer sources of life lessons so we shouldn’t be afraid of making mistakes.


Fact: If you dont ever take the shot you have a 100 percent chance of not getting what you want.

I do agree with Enriq that dating someone you work with is probably a bad career move though. If this it the reason you dont try to take it to a different level, thats a valid choice I think. Just make sure that your motivations are not ruled by your own insecurities.

Good luck!

Kaos, one thing I am not reading in your post is if you find her attractive (for other reasons than she’s attracted to you and that’s good for your self esteem), hot or if you already love her a little for herself. If you do then go for it. Don’t be afraid to get hurt: life is sometimes painful to anyone whose in love with it. Learn to heal, smile when it rains frogs, fire or the whole sky comes down into one solid piece and keep the better part of your sanity through all of this.

My love is a bit of a bad girl herself, with tatoos in the right place, toughness and stuff. She also has a mellow center, a heart of gold that she wasn’t even aware to possess. Take care of that, cherish it and you’ll be a happier, better person, likely a ‘hurtier’ one too but livelier definitely: it’s a small price to pay.

Oh man thanks! Good freaking point! I’m always a positive person. What the hell is wrong with me? I’ll ask her soon when she put her head on my shoulder.

Best of luck to you!:yes:

She’s thick, nice, and cute. She’s so kind and I think she has a warm heart. And yes, she is attractive. It’s her personality that’s attrctive to me, and she does have a nice body by the way.

In my experience: who we are really is based on what we have done. we are the sum of our experiences.

Relationships can go many different ways. but even if you date someone that will ultimately break your heart, you will still come away having learned something that will change you for the better.
it has happened to me many times, but every time I learn more about who I am and what I want to become.

so who cares if you have a bad experience with a girl. the important thing to remember is that you will always come out with more than you had going in.

best of luck.

Folks, my problem is that I’ve been in a bad relationship with someone before, and I hate to have history repeat it self on me.
Read Murphy’s last law… :spin:

Shut up you ******* pessimist. I say go for it.