OK finally got it
You delete them with X in the Action Editor. Then you goto Shft-F4 and and goto the Action lib where you select them with RMB and press F to get rid of the Fake User. Close that window and save and reopen and they should be gone.
Thats what Fligh% wrote over at cgtalk–
Ok - I thought I wasn’t deleting anything but I was! - Just had to save and reopen like Fligh% said - and they are gone in the Action pop-up menu! SO thanks Fligh% for clearing that up–
I had to go through and delete all the users- aswell - you can’t delete anything if they have a user! -
And thanks honeycomb - yeah going through the outliner in a huge help-
My actions where all over the show so they took a bit of searching!