Dont know why im really posting this here, i think i need to vent and possibly get some advice and see what others think.
I broke up with my girlfriend of five and a half years last night. She is from Australia and im from Canada, so it was a long distance relationship which is a bugger, but we spent heaps of physical time together as well. I wound up going there six times, mind you she paid for alot of it…
Iv not seen her since january, and apparently she is “in like” with one of her co-workers (married by the way, but, of course, he is leaving his wife soon…), and wasn’t sure what to because she likes him and isn’t sure about me. So i broke up with her.
I’ve stayed compleatly faithful the whole time as well, never once even kissed another girl tho the oppritunity was there several times. I really gave this girl my all, and i guess im feeling really betrayed, but i think i had to break up with her because i was too afraid of being hurt farther down the line.
Anywayz, i just wanted to vent that, and possibly seek advice as to wether you think i did the right thing, wether i should keep in contact with her to keep trying, or just to let things die and let her have her new man…
well i wish that i had some words of wisdom for you but i went though the same thing with my girlfriend of like 6 years and 3 of those years i was with here and the other 3 were long distance. we pulled it off for awhile. but i didnt cheat on her either but she cheated on me thou but least she was honest enough to tell me about it. do men just have more will power than women do.
but you did the right thing by backing it off i think.
A long distance relationship translates into “someone to sleep with when we are in the same place.”
A relationship has to be nurtured and that is impossible to do over great distances. There are just too many facets to consider when two people are emotionally involved. It is quite difficult enough when you are face to face.
If I were to guess, something happened to her one day that in her eyes was traumatic (perhaps no more than a broken nail) and this guy was there when you could not be. That’s how it started.
Easy for me to say move but it seems that you either need to do just that or move to Australia and try to win her back.
As for the guy, well he’s a bastard but guys like that are lurking about even when the long distance is removed. Just ask his wife.
Thanks for the words guys, it very much appreciated. This isnt something i want to beat myself up over, infact its something i want to forget about as soon as possible. Which probably means going out and meeting beautiful women, if i had only known about all this earlier there were a couple this summer that were definatly interested in me, but of course i was all “i have a girlfriend”.
As well, i can keep my own money for me, instead of paying thousands and thousands for trips back and forth to Australia and trying to move there. Some nice new clothes, possibly a new computer, and enough for dates here and there. I really need to take my life back and start living it for me again now, which means other things like pursuing education and a career.
It was the sweetest time of my life, and i never thought she would do it to me, but such is life and im not the first guy its happend to. All i can say is i know its her loss, and that i will do better than her (based on the fact im not hopping into my next relationship with someone who is married and “leaving” his wife).
But anwayz… I wasnt quite sure what would be said if i posted all this here, and i really want to thank you guys for listening and “seeing” things that might be difficult for me in the position im in right now. Now to get my Blender addiction back full foce…
hey bapsis =) sorry to hear, you definitely did the right thing and handling this pretty well it seems… shes horrible to leave you for adulterous situations… good chance has it that will all blow up in her face and she’ll realize one day how wrong she was… if tv has taught me anything, its that relationships with married men end up in 3-way heartache, or in sexy 4-somes with the pizza delivery man, both of which i dont think youd want to be a part of
Hope you get over it soon dude. There’s a ton (pun not intended) of beautiful and interesting girls out there just waiting to be discovered (metaphoricaly speaking of course).
this tells about as much about the crap on tv than it does about you
As far as I’m any judge, you did the right thing, long distance relationships can’t last for long, when you can’t be there for each other. Myadvice is move on, get out and get over her
