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Okay, so I kind of like this girl, and am unsure of how to go about asking her out. She was flirtatious with me before, but now sort of died down. I am interested in flirting with her now and making an attempt at a relationship. So yeah, I am pathetic, but hey, what the hell.
So she had a little fire burning and it died out because you didnāt act. Weāve all been there, so donāt feel bad 
Youāll have to relight that fire by initiating flirtation, very light of course. To put it in another context: flirting is like a dance where you have to move two steps forward and one step back. Donāt go heavy on her, just be light and focus on having good times. Take her hand and lead her to those good times 
Be careful for jealousy; it is a bad thing so if anything happens, donāt show your jealousy (by asking her where she went out with Jason, for instance). Give her some space to breathe (the step back) and generally leave her in doubt as to your feelings for her (we all like the excitement of that doubt, girls are masters in creating it which is why we guys are easy prey :p).
And if it makes you feel any better: few guys actually have a clue but most prefer not to ask for any advice so their ego can remain proud of itself (and remain ignorant).
Happy hunting! 
pathetic mayn!!!nah im jus playinā¦well maynā¦first get a phone numberā¦then get something you have in commonā¦something you guyz can talk bout alotā¦then get closer and start talking bout deeper thingzā¦then ask her outā¦prestoā¦u got a gurlā¦good luck LOSERā¦nah im jus playinā¦seriously try what i told youā¦alwayz worksā¦i seriously wish u the best of luckā¦
cwās got the nail on the head thereā¦ only thing he didnāt mention: donāt be nervous!
itās natural for males to get nervous around girls they like (or even girls they donāt like, as long as theyāre good-looking), but as Charlesworth pointed out in some other thread, girls can sense nervousness, and itās a turn off. donāt act chill, be chill. itās like zenā¦ chill zenā¦ anyways, follow cwās advice, act natural, and youāve got yourself a lady.
and by the way, if you get into a conversation with her, donāt talk about yourself too much, ask her questions about her life instead.
hopefully i got it right there.
Framedworld, I got balls of steel, I can go up to the hottest girl and get her number, ask her out to eat, take her out to a movie. Now girls I like are a different story, theyāre opinion of me is valued more, so I am more cautious and being aware of my own faults and dirt makes me feel insecure and so Iām nerveous around the girl I like, Iām sure every guy gets this (and yes my hands start to ache). I am able to ask a girl I like out though. I liked this one girl Amanda, I asked her if sheād like to go out to eat with me, she said āsure, Iād love for you to take me out.ā. THen I asked her if after that sheād like to go to the lake and look at the stars and she said āsure, Iād love to be alone with youā. Honestly, we had the time of our lives, I saw the biggest shooting star Iāve ever seen that night and she saw the first shooting star sheās ever seen. And ya know what, she had no interest in me at all, makes no sense right? Seriously though we had a great time, I just got the balls to face my fear and do it. So try that, start small first though, ask her if sheād like to grab a cappuchino and you can bring your laptop and show her your work, then maybe see if sheād like to go see a movie or out to eat or something, call her about every 2 or 3 days, girls love to text mesage also, so text something funny every 2 or 3 days. Itās best to ease your way into a relationship if you feel a little insecure.
Hope I helped,
-Jimmy
Iāve so been there. I donāt know how many girls were flirting and I was too blind to see it until someone pointed it out. My problem is I always act like a āfriendā instead of something potentially more. Donāt do the same or youāll be stuck in the vortex forever.
Yeah, but your not stuck in that vortex forever, it just takes one step out, taking a chance can be a great thing, even if your turned down, you still learn something from that experience.
:pThereās some good advice there,
you should write everything down, and make a script, then you should pull the piece of paper out of your pocket and read you pre-written script with all sorts of jokes in itā¦
honestly, there is no advice anyone can give you, except to just not even think about it. the more natural you are the better it is. she doesnāt flirt with you coz you are so tense around her. just talk to her, and things will flow.
Alltaken
Framedworld, before you take advice from all above posters, maybe you should look into their success rates
Alltakenās advice is pretty foolproof, though. Iād just like to add one point: donāt ever be scared to come on to her. It is pretty natural for guys to worry about getting turned down by a chick you like, however, in reality, girls actually gain respect for you.
Oh, as for my success rateā¦ uhmā¦ happily maried for 8 years and sheās considered āhotā by most men (and me!)
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Good points here Charles.
And Lua is wrong there somewhere. It is ok to be nervous.
Just be yourself, and eventually itāll pass.
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I canāt really give you any good tips, except, I used to be like you and miss all the signs. I actually thought that being friends was a good start, so I was always the friend. Then I met a girl that actually didnāt twist my feelings inside out upside down and leave me in a nervous sweat, actually I could relax, and what do you know, my first real girl is now my wife and I love her dearly, our first child is due early next week. 7 years of marriage and not a blue day, man I mean ( I am sure you guys think this is quite unrealistic, but itās true) we are still on Honey moon.
Now I am not insisting you get low down and marry the first chick you lay eyes on ( very bad idea actually), but what I am saying is be calm, relax, BE YOURSELF, and learn to be humiliated and still smile if it doesnāt pan out.
And if you miss this boat donāt worry, been there done that type of stories are always great to tell when someone asks you a similar thing in the future. I feel oldā¦
Honestly, if youāre not a bit nervous then I wonder if you really like that girl/women. I always feel a bit nervous at the very least and itās a normal feeling when you like someone, like airplane (aka vliegtuig) said. But it is true that if youāre shaking like hell and sweating as if it were 50Ā°C then no-one will really enjoy your presence. No-one likes someone who is intimidated by them.
@jackblack: pretty cool skill, but then againā¦ the hot chicks are not always those you want. Who needs a walking cosmetic shop anyway? 
@FadieZ: been there, done that and realized as well that āfriendā and āloverā are not two stairs on the same staircase but two different roads.
@Alltaken: why not write a script? Girls love actors, right? 
@grafixsuz: Congratulations, daddy! 
okay, I think I have a plan, combo of what you guys wrote. I never thought that I would get the response I got. I guess Iām not the only guy confused about the opposite sex, I am going to take it slow, and use what I am good at: Humor and common interests(in this case art). Once again, thank you for your guys supportā¦and as always: Happy Blendering.
Hereās another thing that girls seem to really like that a lot of dudes like myself also apparently forget: Honesty
My 1 penny hereā¦ If you would rather take her out on an official date date than get to know her as a friendā¦ ask her out on a dateā¦ donāt talk your way around it, or be too subtle, just ask.
I completly agree with this one mayn!!!
Be 100% honestā¦nā don be a playaā¦don cheat on girlz or anythinā¦be loyal to the girl you love.
Yeah, second that.
Oh, and as for the whole ābe realā thingā¦
If you look at yourself honestly, you may find that you talk to much, say things at the wrong time, wutever. In order to keep yourself from doing/saying awkward stuff, let the girl hear the one thing that all chicks dig.
Their own voice.
Seriously, no joke, you give a girl something to talk about(hey, herself) they can go on forever, and all youhave to do is throw in good comments, and actually listen.
Not being sexist here, its just any easy way to get talkin. Once you start feeling comfortable, you can get in on the talking. A bit. Not too much.
Oh, and if shes not talking much, feel free to change the subject, if she say something wrong, change the subject, ignore it, smile a little, or wutever will make her feel more comfortable.
Peace man, and good luck
Drew
This is off-topic, but why do you talk like that?
uh, hes ghetto
Duhā¦
hahaā¦