If something does not work in one step one might try some divide an conquer strategy… for example:
You might try to bend this into some cylindrical form first. So to say do some pre-wrapping and then try again.
You did something like this mutliple times and for very long…
…you should stop asking another question if someone makes a suggestion about your first question before trying the suggestion.
Otherwise people might set you on their ignore or even mute list…
Educational question: What is the difference between your object and a cloth object ?
Tutorial ? About what ?? Reading a suggestions and try it ???